Hair has been a big issue for my family – well for me and D (8yo) to be precise. She has rather lovely strawberry blonde fine hair – in stark contrast to my thick brown wavy mop. Her hair has a tendency to tangle and in an effort to keep it neat we have bought tangle teasers, tangle spray and had it cut into a cute bob. Now though she is pretty insistent that she wants it long, and the most recent deal is that if she doesn’t make a fuss about it being brushed then she can keep it longer. In the holidays I’m not so fussed about it being a bit untidy but for school I like her to be well presented. I don’t want to set her up for any kind of ridicule as she has enough to deal with as it is.
School mornings have frequently been a bit of a battle. Even if I snagged the tiniest amount of hair we have had melodramatic screaming and histrionics. The tangle teaser brush only seems to smooth out the top layer of hair and makes no impact at all on the hair underneath.
So this Christmas a possible solution was unwrapped by D – a super Dorling Kindersley book called ‘Fabulous Hair’. D describes herself as a ‘sporty’ girl rather than a ‘girly’ girl – she does not wear dresses and absolutely detests pink! She loves this book though. It has loads of ideas for styles for all kinds of girls. The girls in the book look like normal healthy happy girls with a range of skin tones and hair types, and they use a range of accessories of different colours – not just pink! How refreshing!
We have had fun experimenting with different looks and buying special grips and clips. She has learnt to be more tolerant of me pulling and fiddling with her hair as she is so keen to try the styles out. We have had low plaited bunches that look cool with hats, little plaited buns that make you look like a ballerina, lots of tiny plaits at the front that go all crinkly after a while and super neat pony tails, We have actually enjoyed brushing and styling hair and D has enjoyed all the compliments. Happy hair has taught D how to care for herself and given her self esteem a boost.
This morning we tried plaited buns but her hair is super fine and floppy and I just couldn’t get them to stay in, so we opted for low pigtails – that just about squeezed under her bike helmet! And wonder of wonders – we didn’t have any tears or tantrums about hair this morning. Have we discovered happy hair at last?